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Parenting from a Different Perspective:

Parenting is like riding a bicycle……

In today’s Metaphor Monday I take you on a little adventure into parenthood (filmed with our GoPro camera).  I talk about some general principles of parenting as I see it from my mountain bike.  What am I talking about? I guess you will just have to watch my short video for details…….

Parenting from a different perspective.

What can animals teach us about our children? In Today’s 11th Metaphor Monday I explore a different way of looking at children’s feelings of fear and anger. Please post your comments or questions below.

It never ceases to amaze me how much I can learn from my children. While I like to think they learn from me as well, I still need to remind myself how much they can figure things out themselves when given the chance. We would’nt give them the answers on a test, or do their homework for them.

Are our answers the only “answers”?

So why then is it so hard for us as parents to take a step back instead, and let them find their own solutions? Why do we feel the need to give them “the” answers? Are our answers the only “answers”?

We too need to look inside for the answers. Sometimes it is not so easy as a parent to do this. Sometimes we avoid looking inside for our own answers and we look to others instead. Looking for that perfect answer of what exactly we should do in a particular situation with our children. We second guess ourselves and miss what has been there all along, what is right in front of us: the answers are inside.

Look inside. I quarantee you will find the answer.

One thing that I find grounds me in the present moment when I am having a rough day or week, is to think of what a child would do. Sometimes this brings hilarious images to mind, like the time one of my sons fell asleep with a cookie in his hand while on a car trip and woke up suddenly alert, took a bite and went back to sleep instantly! Grasping that cookie tightly in his little hand. Now that is living in the present moment!

 

They only seem to get stuck in the past when they are encouraged to. When we remind them about what has happened or what went wrong. When we insist that they remember not to do what they did the last time, that did’nt work out.

 

When I think about how children handle themselves, (without our interference that is) they pretty much will move on to the next moment if given the chance (i.e. parents aren’t nagging them). They only seem to get stuck in the past when they are “encouraged” to. When we remind them about what has happened or what went wrong. When we insist that they remember not to do what they did the last time, that did’nt work out. When we give week long consequences for something that happened within the time span of a minute, so that they don’t forget (I have not done this personally, though when caught up in the heat of the moment the thought has crossed my mind).

 

Please enjoy the photo montage below. I hope that it inspires you to take the perspective of a child now and again, if not for your child’s sake, for yours. There is so much we can learn from the world when we do.

 

 

Thank you my love (Christos) for completing this song for me, it is beautiful!

Sunshine, Everyone Loves the Sunshine

Welcome to the fourth Metaphor Monday video. In this series I explore a different metaphor each week, viewing parenting from a different perspective.

Wishing you many sunny days ahead!

Please post any comments below.

Yesterday my eldest son, who was curious about the work that my husband Chris and I were doing on the website, decided he wanted to contirbute by making up his own language and post it on the website. He drew a picture and began to create his own symbolic language. Afterwards I thought to myself, that’s such a juicy metaphor for how kids operate.

They really do have their own language don’t they, and as their parents we are constantly trying to figure it out. Then like any new language one is trying to learn, there is only so much we can understand at any point in our learning before we scratch our head and say, “what does that mean?” (read – why is he doing that?) Or maybe we dont understand it because it is out of context, or there is a word we just are not getting the jist of because we are thinking in our first language. Read the rest of this entry »

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