A while back my husband and I decided to structure in some special time with the kids because of our work schedule and feeling we did not have a lot of time together as a family. While we had tried family game night where we play a board game (usually one that is cooperative rather than competitive) it just wasn’t as fun for the adults as when we were kids.

What I found worked better for us as a family was following the natural flow of our day. So for example when my eldest son was going to taekwondo, my youngest would spend some time together with me or my husband. Sometimes he would choose play, sometimes art and more recently he told me he wanted to teach me how to draw a specific item or animal.

I found myself wondering about this process for him. All too often the adults in children’s lives (myself included) are telling them what to do and exactly how to do it. Here, my son had brilliantly thought of a way to take back control in his little life, as he was in charge of what we drew and how we drew it.

He had figured it out!

Following your child’s lead is an important part of connecting with your child.  When we give our children the opportunities to lead, to make the rules, to make things up or figure things out for themselves we ARE giving them essential life lessons. We are giving them many important messages:

I believe in you!


I see you.

I hear you.


You have a lot to offer the world!


You can do it!


How do you follow your child’s lead?

What messages do you want to give your child?

Please post below, we would love to hear your ideas.

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