When my oldest son was in grade two, his class was asked to make a drawing of where they would like to live. They drew their pictures, cut them out, and displayed them at the school art show. I remember seeing all the wonderful drawings of homes. The pictures were two sided with the outside of the home on one side and the inside on the other. When I asked him where his was he showed me a large airplane. It was colourful and full of details. Talk about thinking outside of the box- or should I say house! He was so proud of it that he hung on to it for years hanging it in his room.

Kids naturally think outside the box well unless we put our expectations on them not to. “Why don’t you do it this way” or “aren’t you suppose to…?” Most parents learned to parent by virtue of the way they themselves were parented as children. For many, this means they were told what to think rather than taught how to think for themselves. I see this a lot in my practice, well meaning parents telling their children what to do, what to say, how to behave and so on. Not that I think there is never a place for helping and guiding our children, its just the way that we do it. If we tell our children what to do all the time then we may not give them the opportunity to to learn how to make decisions for themselves, or take responsibility for their actions. We may get in the way of their uniqueness showing through and stifle their curiosity to try new things, or do things differently. With all the social media, tv, and the like, being so prominent in our culture, more than ever its important that our children learn to think for themselves. Even if this means sometimes that we would do it differently we need to let go and trust the process. As long as no one will be hurt and nothing will be damaged, then roll with it. Try it, you just might find you like it.

2 Responses to “Thinking outside the box”

  • Vera:

    I’m actually surprised the school “allowed” it! in a good way obviously, its lovely if children are actually able to truly expres themselves without being interupted and told where to go to much. I remember regularly being told that what I did was wrong and not according to the instructions. If you want kids to do something creative you need to let them be creative and not tell them their creativity is wrong.

    • Yes I agree. We have been pretty pleased with this school so far as public schools go. There is a strong community, many of the parents are involved (and are artists themselves) and even quite a few of the teachers live in the area with their kids attending the same school. The arts are pretty strong at this school too, which I think says a lot for allowing kids to express themselves more freely. I have had many opportunities and invitations to do art workshops over the years in my children’s classes, so this helps too.

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