Archive for June 2011

Tools of the Trade

Welcome to the ninth Metaphor Monday video. In this series I explore a different metaphor each week, viewing parenting from a different perspective.

 

I hope you enjoyed today’s metaphor! Please post any comments below.

 

“Play is the only way the highest intelligence of humankind can unfold.”
Joseph Chilton Pearce

When is the last time you played? I don’t mean a game on your phone or something like that, I mean played like when you were a child. Not just going through the motions with your child, while you think of the one million things you have to do (yes we all do it) . Playing for playing sake. Letting yourself go into the play and getting lost in the silliness, the moment, the imagination of it all.

Parents need to play too, We need to enjoy life and allow ourselves to be silly not just with our kids but with the whole wide world! Allow yourself to laugh a great big belly laugh. Do it now! It’s good for you! We don’t need to take ourselves so seriously all the time.

Have you gotten into a rut with all work and no play?

Find your muse and let him or her take you on a wild, silly, playful adventure today even if just for a few minutes.

Finding it hard to get your play on? Need some inspiration?

Perseverance

Ever had one of those days where things just don’t seem to be going right? What do you do with it? Do you throw in the towel and cut your losses? Or do you hang in there?

The Cycle of Life

How do you explain death to a child? How do you help them understand that it is inevitable, while still allowing them to mourn their loss?

As parents we sometimes want to protect our children from the concept of death. Today’s metaphor explores these difficult questions.

Welcome to the seventh Metaphor Monday video. Where I explore a different metaphor each week, viewing parenting from a different perspective.

 

 

What have been your experiences in helping children understand death? I invite you to share below in the comments.

 

One thing that I find grounds me in the present moment when I am having a rough day or week, is to think of what a child would do. Sometimes this brings hilarious images to mind, like the time one of my sons fell asleep with a cookie in his hand while on a car trip and woke up suddenly alert, took a bite and went back to sleep instantly! Grasping that cookie tightly in his little hand. Now that is living in the present moment!

 

They only seem to get stuck in the past when they are encouraged to. When we remind them about what has happened or what went wrong. When we insist that they remember not to do what they did the last time, that did’nt work out.

 

When I think about how children handle themselves, (without our interference that is) they pretty much will move on to the next moment if given the chance (i.e. parents aren’t nagging them). They only seem to get stuck in the past when they are “encouraged” to. When we remind them about what has happened or what went wrong. When we insist that they remember not to do what they did the last time, that did’nt work out. When we give week long consequences for something that happened within the time span of a minute, so that they don’t forget (I have not done this personally, though when caught up in the heat of the moment the thought has crossed my mind).

 

Please enjoy the photo montage below. I hope that it inspires you to take the perspective of a child now and again, if not for your child’s sake, for yours. There is so much we can learn from the world when we do.

 

 

Thank you my love (Christos) for completing this song for me, it is beautiful!

What happens when things don’t take shape the way you want them to? Do you remember making sand castles on the beach when you were a child?

Welcome to the sixth Metaphor Monday video. In this series I explore a different metaphor each week, viewing parenting from a different perspective.

While we were at the beach, I looked over and was surprised to see sand being thrown up from a small pit on the beach.  I went over to see what was going on and found there was a young man, in his twenties sitting in a hole and digging out sand.  “What are you looking for?” I asked him? “Nothing.” he replied.  “”Are you trying to get somewhere?”  I joked.   “Nope!  Just digging for the sake of digging.”

He was kind enough to allow my also curious son to get in and start digging.  My boys then began digging their own sand hole at the beach, just for the sake of digging.                                              

Enjoy this weeks video!


Are you building sandcastles or digging yourself deeper?

Please post any comments below.

 

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